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This podcast episode features Chris Williamson, host of the Modern Wisdom podcast, discussing how to design and achieve meaningful goals for 2026. The conversation explores why most New Year's resolutions fail (with only 9% of people maintaining them for a full year) and provides practical frameworks for creating sustainable change. (05:18) Chris introduces the concept that "in order to pick something up, you have to put something down," emphasizing that successful goal-setting requires subtraction, not just addition. The discussion covers essential questions for reflection, including "What would have to happen by the end of 2026 for me to look back and consider it a success?" (06:14) The conversation also delves into productivity dysmorphia, the lonely chapter of personal growth, relationship advice, and the importance of psychological stability in both personal development and partnerships.
Chris Williamson is the host of the Modern Wisdom podcast, one of the world's top podcasts according to Spotify's global rankings. He's also the creator of the 3 Minute Monday newsletter, sharing weekly insights on discipline, focus, and meaning. Chris has built a massive following through his thoughtful exploration of men's development, productivity, and the challenges of modern life, becoming a leading voice in the personal development space.
Steven Bartlett is the host of The Diary of a CEO podcast and a successful entrepreneur who co-founded Social Chain, taking it public on the Frankfurt Stock Exchange. He's known for his direct interviewing style and ability to extract practical insights from high-achieving guests, making complex topics accessible to millions of listeners worldwide.
Chris emphasizes that successful goal-setting requires subtraction, not just addition. "In order to pick something up, you have to put something down," he states. (06:56) Most people fail at New Year's resolutions because they assume their capacity will magically expand to accommodate new habits without removing existing commitments. The key is to assume you can do no more than you're currently doing and focus on switching activities rather than adding them. For example, if you want to start going to the gym, you might need to reduce Netflix time or social media scrolling. This framework prevents the overwhelming feeling that leads to resolution abandonment by January.
One of the most practical habit formation strategies Chris shares is the "never miss two days in a row" principle. (45:12) This approach acknowledges that perfectionism kills consistency. "One missed day is an error, two missed days is the start of a new habit," he explains. This removes the all-or-nothing mentality that causes people to abandon habits entirely after a single slip-up. When you miss a day, you simply ensure you return the next day. This creates resilience in your habit system and allows for the inevitable disruptions of real life while maintaining long-term consistency.
Chris advocates for focusing on habits with the highest return on investment, particularly "no phone in the bedroom at night." (33:57) This single change improves sleep quality, morning routines, and reduces mindless scrolling. He also recommends morning walks without caffeine for 90 minutes after waking, which helps regulate your natural energy systems. These foundational habits create positive cascading effects throughout your day, making other healthy choices easier. The key is starting with changes that require minimal effort but create maximum impact on your overall wellbeing and productivity.
One of Chris's most powerful reflection tools is: "If your life was a movie and the audience were watching, what would they be screaming at the screen telling you to do?" (10:05) This question cuts through self-deception and reveals obvious truths we often avoid. Just like horror movie audiences can clearly see the killer hiding in the cupboard, external observers can often identify what needs to change in our lives. Whether it's leaving a toxic job, ending an unfulfilling relationship, or pursuing a long-delayed dream, this question helps bypass rationalization and excuses to reveal what deep down you already know needs to happen.
Chris introduces the concept of the "lonely chapter" - a period where you've outgrown your old friend group but haven't yet found your new community. (101:32) This happens when you make significant life changes like quitting alcohol, starting a fitness routine, or pursuing personal development. The discomfort is normal and expected, not a sign you're doing something wrong. Understanding this helps you persist through the temporary isolation that often accompanies meaningful change. The key is recognizing that this loneliness is a feature of growth, not a bug, and that your future self will thank you for enduring it.